“In Depressed Anonymous, we are exposed constantly to the tough message that we have to give up our self-pity and sadness if we want to be happy. We have to think in terms of what is possible with God in our lives. Sometimes people come to Depressed Anonymous and don’t want to talk about God and the Twelve Steps, and can’t understand what this has to do with how bad they feel. If after a number of meetings they still don’t want to work the Twelve Steps, we recommend other groups to them. Depressed Anonymous is a spiritual program and it is allowing the Higher Power into our lives that eventually delivers us from the habit of feeling sad and depressed. We in Depressed Anonymous are committed to working the Twelve Steps and listening to each other share how God, as we understand God, has worked in our lives….
Jim, a member of Depressed Anonymous admitted that he had seriously thought of taking his own life as he had lost all hope of removing this sadness which, like a cancer, was taking his life by inches. It was only when he had nothing to lose that he made a decision to turn his mind and his will over to the care of God as he understood God. It was at this point that that the God of his understanding or the Higher Power was allowed to work in Jim’s life. God doesn’t act like gangbusters and force its way into our lives -God has to be invited. Once again there is an invitation from us and we admit our dependence on God instead of on our own addiction. It is then that our feelings begin to come alive and the flow of God’s love makes its way into our lives. We begin to to find that we are feeling better and that something good as we trust, possibly for the first time, this God who will give us our heart’s desire. “God grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, the courage to change the things that we can and the wisdom to know the difference. ” Trust God to be God, and let this power help you, as it has helped millions of other men an women before you.”
COPYRIGHT(C) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd ed. Depressed Anonymous Publications Louisville, KY.
“Every decision that we make alters the world of meaning which we have created. Deciding to eat Puff Wheat instead of Cornflakes for breakfast may not be a major change, but abandoning ‘I am bad and unacceptable‘ and replacing it with ‘I accept and value myself‘ is. Every decision you have made since you decided that you were bad and valueless was based on the decision. Now, all these conclusions need reviewing and changing. ” Dorothy Rowe.
CLARIFICATION OF THOUGHT
Making a decision is the first step in getting free and being liberated from my depression. From this step follows the many other steps that are to be taken that will allow me to begin to see how the thoughts I think definitely do affect the way I feel. The next step is to review the different ways in which I can value myself. My first new response to my own negative thinking about myself is to believe that I will today begin my exit from the prison of my own negativity and pessimism.
My struggle to wrest myself free from depression means that I am to make some initial steps in my own health. I want to believe that it is the fact that I want to value myself and my life that I will no longer allow myself to sit and wallow in self-pity but will start to make an effort to take mastery over the way I feel and think.
We will let go of our ignorance about how this universe is operated. I let the God of my understanding take charge as I continue to dip my oars into the water of life and let God be the rudder master,”
SOURCE: Higher Thoughts for Down Days. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. September 3rd. Page 155.
“Every decision that we make alters the world of meaning which we have created. Deciding to eat Wheat Puffs instead of Corn Flakes for breakfast may not be a major change, but abandoning thinking ‘ I am bad and unacceptable’ and replacing it with ‘I accept and value myself’ is. Every decision you have made since you decided that you were bad and valueless was based on that decision. Now, all these conclusions need reviewing and changing. ” Dorothy Rowe, Breaking the Bonds. Fontana. 1991.
CLARIFICATION OF THOUGHT
Making a decision is the first step in getting free and being liberated from my depression. From this step follows the many other steps that are to be taken that will allow me to begin to see how the thoughts I think, definitely affect the way I feel. My next step is to review the different ways in which I can value myself. My first new response to my own negative thinking about myself is to believe that today I will begin my exit from the prison of my own negativity and pessimism.
My struggle to wrest myself free from depression means that I am to make some initial steps in my own health. I want to believe that it is the fact that I want to value myself and my life that I will no longer allow myself to wallow in self-pity, but decide to start to make an effort to take mastery again over the way I feel and think.
We will let go of our ignorance about how this universe is operated. I let the God of my understanding take charge. I continue to dip my oars into the water of life and risk letting God be the rudder master.
I want to make a plan today, to decide how I can do one thing differently so that I might value who I am as a human being. I will write down how I will dip my oars in the water in the next 24 hours and change what I need to change.
(Check out The Depressed Anonymous Workbook at THE DEPRESSED ANONYMOUS PUBLICATIONS BOOKSTORE for that excellent tool for self reflection and personal recovery.)
Life is unpredictable. Every living organism operates with a certain amount of unpredictability and uncertainty. The uncertainty of life creates in us a desire for predictability. If we did not believe in the possibility of change, we would all be hopelessly lost and forever bored. Hope would be lost. Potential far a better life would never exist. When there is hope, change is possible. The experience of depression is much the same. Depression is so predictable and unchanging that we lose hope for the pain of our isolation ever coming to an end.”
Introduction to Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Publications. Louisville.
This introduction introduces the journey of the author and founder of Depressed Anonymous. He based this important program of recovery on the 12 steps of AA. In the introduction, there is a short autobiography of the founders’ life during his depression experience and the how life was after his complete recovery.
Quoted from Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (2011). Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Pages 19-23.
A personal story/ testimony from Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition by Robin.
“Through the Depressed Anonymous program, which utilizes the Twelve Steps, I have been on a journey of transformation from the familiar life of drudgery and gloom and desperation to discovering a new freedom and a new happiness – something I didn’t know existed. My entire perspective is changing. Other people who I once thought were judgmental are now considered as all being a child of God–all created equal. What a peace provocative tool this is. Really! It helps me lift those negative attitudes and replaces them with affirmations. This is certainly the most valuable technique offered in Depressed Anonymous to acquire an optimistic attitude towards life itself, or simply “making gratitude my attitude.” So many of us were only familiar with the sham and the drudgery of life, but even with all the sham and drudgery in the word, it is still a beautiful place to live. We learn to change not the world, but how we view the world and all its intricacies.”
Copyright(c) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.
It is truly a remarkable fact, that by going to one meeting you may hear someone share their own personal story and you think they are talking about you. It is amazing how this works, but not really. What happens is that all of us who come to the Depressed Anonymous meeting for the first time, find that members of this mutual aid group speak the same language … hope and support. It does take one to know one, which is true. I guess the point here is that if we all feel pretty much the same thing when we are depressed, even though my depression experience is unique to me and how it effects my life, that this awareness is a great thing as it helps to produce those many strategies for recovery which can be applied across the board for most of us in the group. The Twelve Steps are strategies that in time and work can give us a fresh and healing perspective for our individual lives. To read more about the recovery experience of others who have used tjourney of transformation
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“I believe that by working the 12 Steps of Depressed Anonymous, the more my Higher Power can release in me the serenity that I seek. While not giving up hope – I can begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel.” The FOURTEENTH WAY out of the prison of depression.
The following is an excerpt from Believing is seeing: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression. (2015) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.
“As long as I have a belief that somehow, someway, I will begin to feel differently and I can believe that Depressed Anonymous was developed to bring the ‘sufferer’s of depression together. By this gathering of like-minded folks, it resulted in individuals being empowered to find a support which slowly leads them out of the hole. I have always believed in the power and the uinfluence of the group — either serving as a power for good or a power designed for destructive ends. But as for our group Depressed Anonynmous, I know that it truly builds, enhances and strengthens anyone who gets involved with it on a regular and consistent basis. Those who do interact with our fellowship eventually come out of the pit of their depression and start feeling hopeful about their lives. They are feeling hope instead of despair. This is actually happening all the time as those involved in the fellowship begin to see personal changes occurring in their lives.” Pages 65-66.
THE SERENITY PRAYER
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time,
accepting hardship as a pathway to peace.
Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to your will,
so that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with you in the next. Amen.
At the weekly Depressed Anonymous meetings there stirs a glimmer of hope for the saddict as he/she begins to encounter others like themselves at group meetings. It is a bigger payoff for the saddict to gradually believe that the recovering members of the Depressed Anonymous group are holding out a hope that can be theirs if only they would depend on the serenity of the members of the group rather than depend on the long time comfort of their addiction.
“Whether it is therapy or not, addicts improve when their relationships to work, family, and other aspects of their environment improve. Addicts have come to count on the regular reward they get from their addictive involvement. They can give up these rewards when they believe they will find superior gratifications from other activities such as the DA meetings in the regular fiber of their lives. Therapy helps this process by focusing on external rewards and assisting addicts in conceptualizing these rewards and obtaining them. What any rewards therapy itself produces must be regarded as intermediate and time limited, as a passage to the stable, environmental rewards that are necessary to create a non addictive equilibrium in people’s lives. Only when such everyday but potent reinforcements are firmly in place is an addiction cured. ” Source: The Meaning of Addiction: Experience and its interpretation. Stanton Peale. Lexington Books. Lexington, MA, 1988. p,55.
SOURCE: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. Depressed Anonymous Publications. (2011) Louisville. Appendix Is depression an addiction?
- Do speak up when an issue is important to you. It is a mistake to stay silent if the cost is to feel better, resentful or unhappy. We de-self ourselves when we fail to make a stand on issues that matter to us.
- Don’t strike when the iron is hot. Sometimes it’s better to seek a temporary distance from the problem and think it through more clearly.
- Do take time out to think about the problem and to clarify your position. What is it about this that makes me so angry? Who is responsible for what? What specifically do I want to change?
- Don’t use below the belt tactics: These include blaming, diagnosing, ridiculing, preaching, interrogating.
- Do speak in “I language.” Learn to say “I want…I need…I feel… I fear. The I statement says something about the self without criticizing or blaming the other.
- Don’t make vague requests. Let people know specifically what you want.
- Do try to appreciate the fact that people are different. Different perspectives and ways of reacting do not necessarily mean that one person is “right” and the other “wrong.”
- Don’t tell another person what she or he thinks or feels or should think or should think or feel.
- Do recognize that each person is responsible for his or her own behavior.
- Don’t participate in intellectual arguments that go nowhere.
- Do try to avoid speaking through a third party.
- Don’t expect change to come about from hit and run confrontations.
SOURCE: An article by Harriet Goldhor Lerner PhD. Staff Psychologist at the Menninger Foundation in Topeka Kansas.
I am finding a way out of my sadness and just for today, I will remain hopeful!
“…We have come a long way on our journey, for the road to coping and recovery is widening and has its obstacles, but we have all fared well, we have braved the storms and found a hope that extends beyond tomorrow.”
CLARIFICATION OF THOUGHT
Even though the journey out of this darkness might be longer than I am wanting to admit, I can still hope that the end will be in sight at some time. There is going to be a light at the end of the tunnel. With time and with work, I will get better. I have already admitted, time after time, that I need help in learning how to free myself from my need to sad myself, day after day. This compulsion of mine has been with me for many years, but I have hope that it will not be long until my good days begin to outnumber my bad days with depression. I have the faith of a beginner, a novice if you will, in the ways of recovery. I can’t find a way out of this depression without hope. I know that there is going to have to be a change in the way I view life if I am to get better. I am going to take responsibility for my life and begin to change!
Troubles in one’s life may cause our persistence and endurance to grow and is the reason our faith is strengthened.
God, help us realize that we are part of your plan and that we have a purpose here on this earth; if for no other reason than to let others like us know that we have a place where hope starts, namely, in you.
Source: (c) Higher Thoughts for down days: 365 daily thoughts and meditations for members of 12 Step fellowship groups. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.