The Promises of Depressed Anonymous: Promise #10 of 15.
Fear of people and economic insecurity will leave us.
Losses may produce a variety of very intense and painful feelings. Fear can cripple the best of us. Why fear people and economic insecurity? In Steps 4,5,6,7,8,9 we have examined our lives piece by piece, ending up with a good conscience, while feeling neither guilt or shame for things of the past. We have thrown off the shackles of the past.
Bill, in his personal testimony in the DA book relates that you don’t get better overnight, but you do get better. “I was down in the muck as far as I could go. I had to go and open the door for the first time because there was no other place to go. I had already used up all the hiding places in my life. I still have many problems like anyone else, but when I need sleep very badly, I turn the problem over to the Higher Power and go to sleep. I can always pick life up in the morning. Somehow it all gets done. Every few days the world dumps on you and beats you down. That’s just life..” (Source: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition.)
I believe this man definitely “got it.” when he began attending the group, spending some quiet time every day and learn that people like himself were able together to form a new environment, a surrogate family if you will, where there exists healing and hope.
Granted the group cannot find you a job or take away fear of people, but it can provide you with a map where you can discover a way out of the prison of one’s depression. How can you learn that?
Kim, a member of DA in her personal story says that “the moment I read that I had a choice to stay in depression I undoubtedly knew that I could make the choice to get out of my depression. Bingo! It wasn’t an illness. This did not have control over me. And another tool I use frequently through the DA manual is that “thoughts produce feelings, feelings produce moods and moods produce behavior.” (Source: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition.)
In the tradition of one major religion, there exist the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion. And as the saying goes “You can let your thoughts come into your mind, just don’t invite them to stay for tea.”
And as it says in the Bible; “Fear not, for I am with you. Let not your heart be troubled.”
If you have ever experienced the pain and hurt of depression you know what the thoughts expressed here are all about.
I remember Bill very well from the time he came into our group for the first time. And with time passing I saw him change right before my eyes and live out what he shares with us in his personal story in Depressed Anonymous. I do know that it is just in the sharing of who we are that life can begin for us once again. It truly is like a rebirth. I also know how our feelings produce our moods and the moods produce our behavior. My behavior shifted dramatically from the extrovert that I normally was to the reclusive and isolated person trying to figure out the “why” of my depression. It was only until I got moving did my feelings begin to change and I became more positive in my thinking so that gradually I began to climb out of the deadness of my inactive behavior. “If you want something that you never had before, you must do something that you never did before.” Doing that something will be the thing that will change your life!
SOURCES: I’ll do it when I feel better. (2014). DAP. Louisville.
Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) DAP. Louisville.
Believing is seeing: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression (2015) DAP. Louisville.