“Every decision that we make alters the world of meaning which we have created. Deciding to eat Puff Wheat instead of Cornflakes for breakfast may not be a major change, but abandoning ‘I am bad and unacceptable‘ and replacing it with ‘I accept and value myself‘ is. Every decision you have made since you decided that you were bad and valueless was based on the decision. Now, all these conclusions need reviewing and changing. ” Dorothy Rowe.
CLARIFICATION OF THOUGHT
Making a decision is the first step in getting free and being liberated from my depression. From this step follows the many other steps that are to be taken that will allow me to begin to see how the thoughts I think definitely do affect the way I feel. The next step is to review the different ways in which I can value myself. My first new response to my own negative thinking about myself is to believe that I will today begin my exit from the prison of my own negativity and pessimism.
My struggle to wrest myself free from depression means that I am to make some initial steps in my own health. I want to believe that it is the fact that I want to value myself and my life that I will no longer allow myself to sit and wallow in self-pity but will start to make an effort to take mastery over the way I feel and think.
We will let go of our ignorance about how this universe is operated. I let the God of my understanding take charge as I continue to dip my oars into the water of life and let God be the rudder master,”
SOURCE: Higher Thoughts for Down Days. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. September 3rd. Page 155.
“Made a decision to turn our will and our life over to the God of our understanding. ” Step Three of Depressed Anonymous.
“Every decision that we make alters the world of meaning which we have created. Deciding to eat Puffed Wheat instead of Corn Flakes for breakfast may not be a major change, but abandoning ‘I am bad and unacceptable ‘ and replacing it with ‘I accept and value myself’ is. Every decision you have made since you decided that you were bad and valueless was based on that decision. Now, all these conclusions need reviewing and changing.” Higher thoughts for down days. August 3rd. pg.155. And D. D. Rowe’s BREAKING THE BONDS.
“In Step Three we have to make a decision. We don’t have to feel holy or extra nice but that we only have to make a decision – that is hard for someone who is depressed but it can be done. There is an old saying which goes like this: “Have a nice day unless you made other plans. ”
I want to really begin to turn things over to the God of my understanding. In Depressed Anonymous we call this God our Higher Power.
AS Bill W., (Co-founder of AA) tells us
“We realize we know only a little. God will constantly disclose more to you and to us. Ask Him in your morning meditations what you can do each day for that person who is still depressed. The answers will come, if your own house is in order. (See Step Four).
But obviously you cannot transmit something you haven’t got. See to it that your relationship with Him is right, and great events will come to pass for you and countless others. This is the great fact for us.”
The Depressed Anonymous Workbook.(2002) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.
PS. WHAT PLANS HAVE YOU MADE FOR TODAY?
I am going to take a fearless and moral inventory of myself today and list on paper my strengths as well as my weaknesses, that is those characteristics in my life that might keep me fearful and depressed,
“Step Four and Five really have to be faced head-on if our depression is to go away. Steps Four and Five are all about cleaning house. We must square off with ourselves and begin the rooting out process that will in time, free us from our sadness and our identity as a depressed person. So often a person depressed is afraid, panic stricken really, in facing some issues that were never their fault in the first place.”
I see so many people are liberated from their depression the moment they begin to look themselves in the eye and reflect on their character defects. These persons are the ones who are not afraid to make a list of all the persons they have hurt by their isolating depression and by the thought that they are unacceptable to others and to themselves. By working Step Five which states that “we admitted to God, ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” I am assured by another person’s acceptance of me that I will get through this time of pain and hurt.
Bill W., the co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous had a spiritual awakening on night as he truly was at the lowest point in his life and begged God to help him. God’s love lit up the room for Bill and he was never the same after that. He was a changed man. I need to make restitution to my family, my friends, my spouse and to whomever for my withdrawing from life and hiding from my responsibilities. This is the work that is needed if I am to get free of the shackles of sadness.
God, shine the light of your wisdom into our hearts so that you might help us find the way out of our depression and get on with living our lives the way you would have us live them. Our fears and anxieties are definitely not the way you would want us to live. You have shown us the way out of our misery by bringing us close to those who once were depressed, but now in recovery, are doing better.”
SOURCES: Copyright (c) Higher Thoughts for Down Days: 365 daily thoughts and meditations for all members of 12 Step fellowships. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Page 224/ November 10th.
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These three words appear in the first three Steps of Depressed Anonymous. These are the words that make us well. These are the words that start us on our journey to a life lived without fear. These are the words that will thrust us into a life filled with hope and meaningfulness. Of the 12 Steps of recovery, these are the first steps that one takes when they want to find peace and hope.
I remember so vividly when I took my first step over the threshold of despair and isolation into the bright light of awareness and hope at my first 12 step group meeting. Just by walking through the door I admitted that I needed help. My life had spiraled out of control. It was on that day, at that meeting of the fellowship, that others heard my story, that I started to believe that I could be restored to a purposeful life lived with hope and peace. It was on that day, at that meeting, that I made a decision to turn my life and my will over to the care of God as I understood God.
And here I am today, 33 years later, not only with a life filled with a purpose designed to help others depressed but by doing so, have kept myself free from isolation and self-pity.
SOURCE: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.