Let’s get real! How often do we hear people who’ve never been depressed tell people depressed to just “snap out” of their depression? Answer? Too many times.
In our Manual, Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition we read “I don’t believe you can snap out of your depression, or suddenly and dramatically get your life turned around by going to one Depressed Anonymous meeting, or reading the 12 steps five times an hour. It just doesn’t happen that way, especially if you have lived with your depression for any length of time. Even though we emphasize that depression is not a disease, we do want you to know that depression over a long period of time can cause physical problems and upset the metabolism of the human organism. More and more, doctors see how positive feelings, attitudes and emotions can help cancer patients maintain a remission and stay free of a recurring cancer condition. Unpleasant emotions such as fear, anger, resentment, tension and depression all work against recovery.
I would call the sadness that has been with us for as long as we can remember, a learned way to respond to certain negative stimuli. What you will be doing when you come to a Depressed Anonymous meetings is to get involved in your own healing. You will find other men and women who are struggling with the same pain as you are. You will discover that the first step in coming to grips with depression that won’t quit is for you to surrender it, quit fighting it. Let the God, as you understand God take over your life and help let it restore you to sanity, peace and understanding of the way in which you can find the path out of your depression and pain. Depressed Anonymous works if you begin the work of the spiritual program that we’re going to outline in this book. Depression is a moral problem and as such there needs to be a moral solution, one part of which is to admit that we are responsible for ourselves and that we can’t blame it on genes, psychological predispositions or one’s spouse or some other situation. We are going to take charge. We choose to un-depress ourselves. Today! One day at a time!
…But let me warn you — it isn’t easy to do something different from what you have been doing most of your life. This is especially true when it comes to the way we see ourselves, our world and others. There are no magic pills and no easy answers to bring us immediately out of this inner pain and anguish. It does take time and work.
If you really want to leave behind your painful sadness, the daily tears, and the feelings of worthlessness, then begin now to admit the unmanageable mess of your depression. You have had it with feeling out of control!
That’s the way it is with depression – over the years you get comfortable with feeling miserable, which doesn’t mean you like it, but that you’re just too afraid to risk doing something different. When you want to change and leave your depression behind, the choice that you want to make is immediately dashed to the ground because you feel there is no hope for you. “I can’t pull myself up by my bootstraps and start to feel better,” you tell yourself. Most the time, we tell ourselves that we will do it when we feel better. (See reference to” I’ll do it when I feel better” below). Folks, let me tell you something – you will never feel better until you begin to physically get moving! We all know that we feel better only when we get into gear and get busy – distracting ourselves from those ever present miserable thoughts which whisper how bad we are and how hopeless life seems to be.”
SOURCES: (c)Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (2011). Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Pgs. 31-32.
(c) I’ll will do it when I feel better. (2015) Hugh Smith. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.
(c) The Depressed Anonymous Workbook, (2002)(Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.
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