” A major element of our personal renewal in this program of recovery is the gradual “loosening of our grip” on the life of the our depressed loved one. We have learned the hard truth that it is in “giving up control” of what is to happen to our loved one. The only way our loved one is to get better, is for each of us in our own way to support their efforts at getting connected with life, others and those like themselves. in a Depressed Anonymous Group.
The paradox here is that the times that we spend taking care of ourselves has an inverse effect on the condition and recovery rate of our beloved one. We only win the fight with depression by not fighting. The proof here is that the more we promote a positive emotional and upbeat home environment and trying ourselves to understand depression the more we will assume a new sense of identity and be a survivor instead of a victim.”
See The Dep-Anon Family Group Manual (2000). Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Ky.