I don’t have to be alone.

 

 

” …   I had the conviction that a person depressed could find the same strength and serenity as did those who, sick and tired of being sick and tired, had found when they stumbled into their first Alcoholics  Anonymous meeting. It (Depressed Anonymous)  began as a pilot project at the university where depressed people gathered as a mutual aid group. I discovered that people of all ages, beliefs, and occupations could gradually get out of the prison of depression if they were part of a support group, especially if the group followed the suggested Twelve Steps of the group now  known as Depressed Anonymous. I saw that a Twelve Step program centered specifically around the subject of depression could help people escape isolation  and the painful sense of hopelessness. They would no longer feel alone. ”

Copyright(c) Depressed Anonymous., 3rd edition.  (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville, Ky. Page 22.

NOTE: If you are tired of looking at the four walls during this time of Covid-19, we have  help. If you are depressed and seeking relief, there are a number of places where you can go online for help. Depressed Anonymous now has a meeting everyday from 12:30PM (CST) and 1:30PM (EST). This group is peer led, which means they have been depressed   or using these Steps of recovery today to help maintain hope and healing in  their  lives today!   These are excellent groups to attend to find help and hope.  You can join and share your story or you can listen to the stories of others. Either way you will find  the power at work in your own life.

There are  now five scheduled DA  ZOOM groups operating in the US and being made available to the Depressed around the world.  These ZOOM groups with the SKYPE groups are ensuring that the message of HOPE continues to spread with it’s  powerful message. Please join us if you  are looking to free yourself from isolation.

We thank all of those who chair these meetings with such dedication and faithfulness.  They are true witnesses to the “miracle of the group(s).”

 

Hugh

Isolation and Covid-19. WE OFFER ZOOM & SKYPE -CHECK OUR PAST BLOGS HERE FOR MORE INFO!

In our basic text, Depressed Anonymous, one of the words that show up most frequently are the words, Isolation, trust and surrender. It is not surprising that the word isolation  is at the top of the list. Isolation is one of those behaviors that can keep us in depression, alone, and deepening  a mood  of feeling  hopeless .

With  the corona virus causing death, terror among all people of the earth, it has also forced us to quarantine   ourselves from everyone else. Our isolation, in this case, can save our life and keep us from getting infected and suffer a painful death.

Let’s say I am depressed already and isolating because of my need to withdraw from , family and friends and suffer with my  pain alone.  What do I do now?  Who and what can help me?  I am feeling desperate. I used to go to the market, the park and at least get out of my apartment. I could feel part of the world and the life around me. At least I had the knowledge that I could go out and be with others, without having to talk or even  say  hello.  Now I feel like I’m  all alone   on a  deserted  island.

If you are depressed and reading this now, you can find help online at the  Depressed Anonymous website www.depressedanon.com.  We have a daily   International  Online Depressed Anonymous SKYPE  meeting  at 12:30  pm (CST) and at 1:30 PM ( EST) . We also have  four  ZOOM meetings, One on Sunday (today)  at 4-5PM EST and again on Tuesday at 3-4pm .   We  hope that you can take advantage of these peer led 12 step meetings. I recommend them to you.  Please come and join our fellowship.  We are people with hope.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

For the fellowship.

I want to get my life back again.

AFFIRMATION

I will express my feelings in an  appropriate and reasonable manner.

…In different contexts I would describe   how I  construe  anger: To me it is a human response to frustration.  It is not essentially evil, but it is a facet of our civility and creativity. Our task in dealing with our anger is to inspect critically the sources of our frustration and to develop ways of expressing our anger is to inspect critically the sources of our frustrations and to develop ways of expressing our anger which are socially acceptable and creative.”

CLARIFICATION OF THOUGHT

In my efforts, to find peace and sanity in my life, I am beginning to figure out a few things, namely., that if I want to get my life on track, I will  have to live by the principles of the spiritual program that we call Depressed Anonymous. In my doing the 4th and 5th Steps of the program, I am finding that, I must take an inventory of my character defects that have kept me from living with trust and hope in my daily life. The principles of the Twelve Steps are an assurance that my life can get better. The more  I work the Twelve Steps, the more that I must  develop in my life.

I need not declare that I will never get angry again–only that I will get  in touch with my feelings and express them appropriately. Once my anger is acknowledged, I hope in time, for my ability to forgive to grow and be expressed.

MEDITATION

We thank you, God, for your grace, a gift to be sure. We don’t have to be the most perfect ones to achieve it. We know it is from you  that we receive the courage to live our  lives in a more hopeful and serene manner.

RESOURCE
Copyright(c)  Higher Thoughts for Down Days: 365 daily thoughts   and meditations for members of 12 Step fellowship groups.  Hugh Smith. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville, Ky. Page 73.

 

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Depression gradually dies in the light of day….

The best way to live TODAY is to be fully conscious of the present moment and create that strong desire to be part of it. Let’s not live in yesterday -the rent can kill you.

How often do I spend time in tomorrow and so miss the joy of today? I think one of the more serious occupations (aren’t they all serious?) of the depressed is just to sit and think , and think some more about how bad life is and what awful people they are. The self-bashing makes one’s ability to change even more difficult, as  continued depressive ruminations promote a great sense of unworthiness and confusion. We feel that we have no control over what happens in our life. Actually, we are not so sure   that we should care.  Everything seems hopeless. Living in yesterday is to pay some high price rent – and when you are done paying the rent, you still have nothing to show for it.

I want to be responsible  though I feel it’s difficult to face the fact that one of the ways of getting out of my prison is to stay and feel the pain of my sadness. I have to live in the here and now – I can’t run and hide in the unknown of tomorrow or disappear into the gloomy fog of yesterday. We begin to get mentally healthy when we take it upon ourselves to admit 1) I have a problem, and 2) secondly, I need to change the way I think about myself and my world.  Again, no one need to blame us for that that we got ourselves depressed – but once we know and believe that we are depressed – we learn that we need to take full responsibility for our recovery.  And one of the best ways to break our dependency on our sadness is to share and admit our depression to members of our Depressed Anonymous group. We know how depression flourishes and grows in the privacy and solitude of our minds.

Depression gradually dies in the light of open sharing and frank discussion. We are only as weak as the secrets we keep and strong as the secrets we share.”

Copyright(c)  Believing is seeing: 15 ways to leave the prison of depression. (2020) Hugh Smith.  Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville, KY. Pgs. 39-40.

“All it takes is one good person to restore hope. ” Pope Francis

 

This  statement is so true.  All it takes is one  good person  to restore  hope.   This is a reality that I personally experience each day of my life.  I find these individuals every day – carrying the message of hope  to those others who are looking for a way out of their pain and suffering.  These good people who lead are sharing their own hope, strength and experience with those who still suffer alone, and without hope. These good people take it upon themselves to communicate  to others how they found hope and now want to share their  recovery with others.  They  are   using  the fellowship of hope by the electronic systems such as  ZOOM, SKYPE, FACEBOOK  and the many face to face groups outside of the virtual world.   These various communication tools enable us to  reach around the world  bringing  fellowship to those seeking  hope.

Recently,   individuals in Poland decided to set up their own SKYPE meetings. Just recently in America two  ZOOM group are operating, with one more about to get up and running. There is also a phone – in meeting   operating. in America.

We are here at  depressedanon.com (Depressed Anonymous) offering hope to those who come to our website. A Blog is offered a number of times a week. There are those good people who are not members of Depressed Anonymous who use their resources and talents to keep our  websites, our ZOOM and SKYPE online programs   operating with a myriad of technical skills.  All in all, good persons continue to find hope and   share what they have with others.  so that they too can experience the hope that is  real and offered freely to them.

Depressed Anonymous website at depressedanon.com will lead you to the places where you can go and join up with others at a 12 Step Depressed Anonymous meeting.

Like Francis tells us “All it takes is for one good person to restore hope.

” Won’t you be the next “one good person?” Will you join with us on this great journey where we all  discover  the hope of recovery and personal serenity.

 

The Fellowship of Depressed Anonymous

 

 

 

 

 

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“It is by becoming part of the group that you will experience that miracle of the group. You will find that power greater than   yourself is about to restore you to a feeling of serenity and personal hope.” Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. Pg. 51.

“As faith grows, so does inner security, The vast underlying fear of nothingness  commences to subside.  We of AA find that our basic antidote  for fear is a spiritual awakening.” Bill W., in As Bill Sees it. Pg. 196.

(Depressed Anonymous is modeled on the 12 Steps of AA.)

Resource

(c) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2001) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. KY.

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The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it!

 

The spiritual life is a life that one chooses.  We make a decision as it says in Step Three of Depressed Anonymous, and our lives are changed for ever.

 “Made a decision to turn  our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.”

This decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God is one o f the most important we will ever make in our lives. The more we surrender to God’s peace the more we will   find our way. It is the paradox of our existence in that it is in the letting go that we receive, and  it is only living  in God’s will as we understand God that we can have real life and joy…”  Depressed Anonymous Pg. 46.

“One of the major areas of our lives that we have a difficult time with is getting in touch with our feelings. many of us w ho are depressed now that one of our great defenses is the denial of our feelings – our ability to feel  is diminished as we continually choose numbness over vitality and spontaneity.”  Depressed Anonymous. Pg.50.

(c) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (2011)Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. KY.

Recovery and decision making according to Bill W.

 

“In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We are often surprisd how the right answers come after we have tried this for awhile. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with God, it is  not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of inspiration.We come to rely on it. ”

AA Pages 86-87.

Welcome to the Depressed Anonymous groups in Warsaw, Poland.

 

We wish to welcome the Depressed Anonymous groups in Warsaw, Poland. They have been around a long time and now they want to start translating the Basic Text (3rd  edition)  and The  Workbook into Polish. Great news. Hopefully they will join us on SKYPE or ZOOM. We look forward to your presence here.  Our SKYPE meetings are becoming very international  and I know that they will get a warm  welcome here from all of us.  We all speak the same language here –hope and healing.

See you soon.

Hugh

 

 

Hope is contagious!

Yes, hope is definitely contagious,

When I attend a Depressed Anonymous meeting I hear hope spoken. My own mood is elevated  listening  to how others are feeling better because of using the Twelve Steps of Recovery  for their   lives. Now,  because of  online  Depressed  Anonymous  groups on SKYPE and ZOOM,  the depressed have the opportunity to feel and find hope. And  once they move through the most painful experience of their lives,they come back and share  with the group how their life once was and how it is now.

Persons  find hope. They will find a fellowship that  speaks their language.

Yes, hope is definitely contagious.

In the very helpful book The Depths: The evolutionary origins of the depression epidemic, the author Jonathon Rottenberg shares with the reader how our deep moods can lead to  depression. He calls his study  a mood science.

“…The mood science perspective tells us that depression, deep or shallow, is a natural product of the mood system. However a person gets there, facing deep depression is a supremely difficult trial. Rather than assuming weakness or defectiveness . We should acknowledge that getting through depression requires considerable   strength .Rather than assuming permanent debility, we should recognize that some depressions are followed by thriving. Writing these words fourteen years after  my episode, I recognize that I am not broken. Getting beyond the disease model will require us to honor the strengths of formerly depressed and the ways that, once reborn , they can help others build enduring recovery from depression.

It is possible.”

Yes, hope is contagious!

(c) The Depths: The  Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic. Jonathon Rottenberg  (2014) Basic  Books, New York, NY. Pages 199-200.