Today, we would like to initiate a series on the Promises of Depressed Anonymous. We will consider some thoughts about the First Promise of Depressed Anonymous. The following piece illustrates some important areas for you, the reader, to consider.
” Working the 12 Steps is like the person who heads toward the light at the end of the tunnel. The closer one gets to the light –the more one discovers the way out.
The light in this case is symbolized by the Fellowship of Depressed Anonymous. The expression of light, health and recovery of its members helps each of us to stay focused on recovery. Work has to be done if we are to find not only the light — but a life free from the symptoms of depression. Change is painful. The first step is really the beginning of the end of our pain. By admitting that we are in pain is that which paradoxically begins the release of our pain. This is the paradox of letting go and holding on as we learned from our Step Three. What we hold onto holds onto us. What we seek –seeks us.
It is difficult for any of us to admit that our lives are out of control.”
– To be continued
SOURCES: Copyright (c) The Promises of Depressed Anonymous (2002) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.
Copyright (c) I’ll do it when I feel better. (2014) Depressed Anonymous Publications,. Louisville.
Copyright (c) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.
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“During my first night in the hospital, a member informed me of a support group known as DEPRESSED ANONYMOUS. I decided to give it a try. By telling me about this wonderful, miraculous, and very spiritual program, this person had not only worked the Twelfth Step, but has also given me a key, a key which would open many doors for me. Walking through these doors was like admitting defeat. I was playing first base in a ball game in which I would eventually win. If I struck out, I was back on Step One. By playing ball with a positive attitude, I was allowing my Higher Power to walk the Steps to recovery with me. With the help and the positive sense of fellowship that I enjoyed in the group, I began to understand God’s will for me. With the love, support, and true friendship of three faithful members in the group, I began working on my driver’s license when two members of the group took me in for my road test. A new sunnier life had begun for me. The worst was finally over.”
SOURCE: Depressed Anonymous (3rd.Edition) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville, Ky. “We never talked about our feelings.” Page 112-113.
In the Personal Stories section of Depressed Anonymous (3rd Edition), an anonymous writer shares with us how when she began to follow her bliss—happy memories from her past life–something started to happen. In the program of Depressed Anonymous we call them SUNSPOTS. Let her tell us in her own words.
” Look for SUNSPOTS, memories from the past that were happy times and ones which bring back happy feelings from years gone by. I tried, but none came to mind. But I did find that just thinking about the book (Depressed Anonymous) and what it said, did make me feel a little better. Then a piece of a song popped into my mind “Seek you first the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness, and all the others will be added to you..” “Hey! A SUNSPOT I said to myself
Then I felt a warm glow and then I did feel better — I did it! I made myself feel better. I can un-depress myself. I had mixed feelings. I wanted to feel better, but admitting I depressed myself was not an easy thing to do.
I went back and reread the book, but now with an open mind. I have started to follow the Twelve Steps and with the help of the Higher Power, I can have a brighter future. I am making and putting in my memory a lot of SUNSPOTS for those times when I am feeling depressed and which I can choose to draw upon when I feel that I need them.
I put up a “stop” sign and bring out a SUNSPOT to carry me through.” By Anonymous. Page 114. “I depressed myself. I can un-depress myself.”
NOTE: I have also found that when I create a picture album in my mind I can always leaf through them, one memory at a time. It is a well known fact that memories carry with them pleasant or unpleasant feelings. We don’t want to try to forcibly push away those unhappy memories-as that seems to just make them more persistent- but to just let those unhappy pictures float by – like watching a vehicle passing by. And as we move onto those happy memories in our mind’s album and place our attention on them, we will with time and practice discover that happy memories produce happy and pleasant feelings. Hugh
I WILL CLIMB EVERY HILL AND CROSS EVERY VALLEY SO THAT I MAY GET BETTER AND SHARE THE STORY OF MY RECOVERY WITH NEW MEMBERS AT MY NEXT REGULAR MEETING.
“Admitting our helplessness, we can abandon our desperate attempts to control everybody and everything, and simply ‘go with the flow,’ taking life as it comes. Many people, emerging from depression or from a major trauma, do this when they decide to take ‘one day at a time.'”
This is the hard part, trying to stay out of the past and avoid living in the future. It’s wise to be as aware as I can of what is going on inside of me and around me. One man who is a regular at our group meeting said that the trouble with those who were depressed, including himself, was that he always felt sorry for himself. He was overwhelmed that his self-pity would never help him feel better. He’s right. It won’t!
I need to study the steps, especially Step Eleven in which it states that I should make conscious contact with God as I understand God, praying only to do His will for me. This is the letting go that will help me to relax and help me try and live one day at a time.
Jesus said don’t worry about tomorrow because there are enough worries to concern ourselves with today. He was right. Just keep praying that God, as we know Him, will give us all we need when we need it, and how we need it. It will all come when it is supposed to.
SOURCE: Higher Thoughts for down days: 365 daily thoughts and meditations for 12 step fellowship groups. Depressed Anonymous Publications, Louisville, Ky 40217.
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