Is it that simple? Gaining control of my life didn’t happen overnight. I did know that most people’s depression usually lifted after a year’s time. Mine did. The catch is, that for me, it took some work and patience. No magic wand waving over my head and no silver bullet automatically killing the demon of despair that continued to beat me down. But what gradually happened was that my mood came back providing me with hope and a plan for my recovery. I began to feel some control over how I was feeling and the new mood of cheer gave me the courage to keep on doing what I was doing. In my case, my mood began to be lightened the more I continued my daily walking.
Just my determination to take of myself physically paid huge benefits. For once, in many months I felt some control over my mood and the direction where my life was heading. I was beginning to be in control instead of my life being out of control and unmanageable.
I remember in Graduate school I gave persons depressed a questionnaire determining how much control they felt they had over their lives. Interestingly, the person who felt they had less control over their lives, or none at all, these more depressed persons felt less in control over their environment and the way the direction of their life was taking.
Those who were less depressed answered that they were begin to feel more in control of their lives. These persons were experiencing more hope and the direction of their lives was providing purpose and meaning.
What to do?
First of all, get a plan that will work for you. My plan was this Step by Step program of recovery we call Depressed Anonymous. The best part of the plan is to find friends who, just like ourselves, are working the same plan. This fellowship, this non judgmental approach and support of the group provides us with our marching orders. When members of the fellowship share their story–we hear our own story. We know that just by admitting that we need help it is at this initial starting point, where we begin to spiral upwards instead of continuing the spiral downward.
If you want to take control of your life and your mood, it would do you well to join us and discover how others gained control over their lives just as it is possible for yourself.
SOURCE: Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (2011). Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Ky.