When I first attended a 12 Step mutual aid group meeting I found the members talking about their feelings, life situations, and other painful memories. Talk is not cheap! It cost everyone in the group who wanted to talk about their lives that sharing themselves comes at a certain price. At the same time, they discovered that by opening up to others and talking with others, an important shift began to take place in their thinking. Many times when they were sharing they found others in the group who also wanted to talk about these same problems. Even though each of us was a unique individual , we all suffered from the same compulsion and addictive attachments.
The price that each of us paid at these meetings was an investment in personal freedom releasing us from what had kept us locked down in despair. For some, this talking with others was the first time they were able to share their hurt and pain with others.
For some, including myself, it took awhile to trust others. It is only when someone else talks about a life situation that I was given the prompt to talk and share how we had the same experience. Talking helped me to see that I too could be accepted and loved–just for me. Talking helped me believe that from this time on I was not alone.
Talk is not cheap. If you don’t talk, it could possibly cost you a lot more.
Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. Depressed Anonymous Publications. (2011) Louisville, KY.