Our Family of Origin
In order to make a good inventory (See Step Four ) I need to go to my roots and discover how I came to be the person that I am today. As the saying goes, “We are our parents.”
When we were small we “swallowed” our parents, meaning “swallowed” their main personality characteristics. Even today parents, grandparents, a stepparent, or guardian are all now part of our personality – for good or for ill. For myself to escape from my depression I need to discover how I might have received certain messages about myself from those adults who surrounded me as a helpless infant and child. All of us have received messages as children – some helpful and others not so helpful. Some messages directed toward us might have made us feel worthless because we got the message that we could never do anything to please others. ”
SOURCE: (c) The Depressed Anonymous Workbook. (2002) Depressed Anonymous Publications. L:ouisville. Page 29. The 4th Step: Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves.