Well, for one, it takes work to change our behavior. It takes time. It also takes a plan for getting done what needs to get done. You remember the saying: “Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.” There is some truth to that as I know firsthand from personal experience. How often did I tell myself that I would do this or do that, when I felt better. Can you relate to that? Most of us can. But when I was depressed I never felt better – to do anything–at least to do the stuff that I needed to do to escape my comfortable cocoon of inactivity. It was hardly comfortable. At least I didn’t have to make any decision to get better. I guess that was the comfort.
First of all, I knew that after being painfully aware that I was spiraling down into a place where I could not just snap my fingers and I would feel good again. My will power was powerless to help. So, my awareness told me that I had to get motivated and start to move–I mean physically move. I had to force myself out of bed. I did that. I motivated myself to move. I Got up the force to move my body and this gradually and with some reluctance moved my mind to do more. So then I placed myself into the doing stage. I had to change, I told myself
I then started a process of removing from my thinking those thoughts that told me how futile my life was, plus how worthless I considered myself. I started to replace all those negative statements about myself in my head with positive statements. Positive affirmations. I began to repeat over and over my mantras where I began to say good things about myself, while discarding the negative and unpleasant thoughts about myself; thoughts that continued to paralyze me. These mantras are the mental thinking loop which I repeated dutifully hour after hour, day after day. ” I will build a new life”; “I am stronger than my sadness”; ” I have the courage to go through this painful experience”;” I no longer blame myself or others for my sadness”. “I do not have to wait for someone else to make me glad;” “I am focusing on my stars, not my scars;” . “I can do it;.” “Yes, I can.”
Now that you are AWARE of being powerless over the sadness in your life, what are you DOING today to continue MOTIVATING yourself? I will change myself.