Depressed Anonymous Meeting
Sedona. AZ 86336
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How often must I learn not to get caught up in the mania of having thoughts and feelings and flights of grandiosity as I flee from the depths of my sadness. I will not run from my sadness, but instead, I will focus on the fact that I have to stake out my claim and say, this is it — I am going to get well starting today – right now. When I am manic I am panicky and very jittery, but when I am depressed or feel myself slippimg down into the abyss of darkness I run as fast as I can until I no longer can stop my racing thoughts, nor find an end to the obsession of wanting complete perfection in everything that I do.
What this means is that I am going to believe that I am about to be released from a terminal illness. My sadness has dogged me throughout my life. I no longer am willing to give in to it, this Black Dog of sadness once labeled as “melancholia.” I have tried all the pills to rid myself from the angst of my soul until there were no more pills, no more solutions and no more avenues of escape. I could escape the pain from time to time, but not a lifetime of hurtful human experiences.
God, you call each of us by name. Give us the power to name anything that is blocking us from growing in the wisdom of your will for us today. Lead us home to your peace. (Add your own personal thoughts here.)
(c) Higher thoughts for down days: 365 daily thoughts and meditations for members of 12 Step Fellowship groups. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville, KY. November 20th.
(c) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville, KY.
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One of the ways I stay connected to the work of recovery is finding those thoughts and meditations which speak peace, truth and hope. For that reason a few years back I decided to develop a daily meditation book for those of us depressed. Everyday I find and reflect upon the healthy thinking of persons who live and walk the Steps. Not only would I be in touch with empowering thoughts, I will also be inspired with words of hope for daily living. I knew that my recovery depended on keeping connected with the Steps, those Twelve Spiritual principles that daily empower me with positive thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
Staying connected with positive thinking inoculates me from spiraling downward into that abyss of hopelessness. I am grateful that I not only have these daily meditations to keep me sane and sober but that I keep myself focused on that which provides my life with meaning and purpose. For that reason I chose to call this daily meditation Higher Thoughts for Down Days: 365 daily thoughts and meditations for members of 12 Step fellowship groups. Some of our Depressed Anonymous groups use these thoughts at their weekly meetings. They also serve as topics for the discussion period in the groups meetings.
I am aware for the first time since I have been working the program of recovery, that my thinking is cylical in that my negative thoughts constantly keep going around and around in circles. I have found that I need to stop my negative self-destructive thinking that has dogged me most of my life. I am able to break the circle of hurt and my own self-inflicted pain and come to my senses. I do have some good things going for me and I plan to use these good character traits as building blocks for a future filled with hope.
I am learning to take good care of myself. I am interested in my own self-care than I am of what others around me want or need. I am not being as selfish as much as I am being concerned about my own growth and development. In the Third Step we declare that “we made a decision to turn our lives and our wills over to the care of God as we understand God.” To be in the care of someone means that they are concerned about us and are burdened with a concern for us.
Restore our fortunes O God. Bring back and keep near all those good, empowering thoughts that are producing hope and meaning for that new life that we live everyday. Keep us connected to being connected!
(c) Higher Thoughts for down days: 365 daily thoughts and meditations for members of Twelve Step fellowship groups. Depressed Anonymous Publications . Louisville.KY. November 14. Pages 186-187.
If we are ever sad about people we have hurt or even more angry about people who have hurt us over the years, we need to get this out into the open. We also need to share the anger that we feel inside of us that has been swallowed for so many years and which need to get expressed.
CLARIFICATION OF THOUGHT
Finally, I can give myself permission to express my feelings. I have held in many strong emotions over the years. Now, thanks to my friends who are in recovery with me, I have been assured that that it’s alright to express my strong emotions. It has been said that depression is anger turned in on itself. It should also be said that anger unexpressed flattens all feeling, especially the pleasant ones. Today, I know and believe that it is alright to first identify my feeling, secondly to own it, and then thirdly, to express it.
I am learning much from the old axiom that we “first have to be true to our own self.” I am also learning that my need to be perfect and to please everyone made me into a doormat. I thought that I didn’t deserve any better.
Anger has its root, usually from a hurt or an old grievance. The soil that gives nurturance to this hurt is resentment. The best way to get rid of my need to be vindictive is to find out what triggers my anger.
God show us your mercy and let our trust in you heal all our hurts and let trust be strengthened as we go about our activities today.
(C) Higher thoughts for down days:365 daily thoughts and meditation for members of 12 step fellowship groups. Hugh Smith (2002) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Ky. Pages 224-225. November 11.
“Depressed Anonymous is not the place to have people feel sorry for you. Depressed Anonymous is a spiritual program where you will find people like yourself, honestly, openly and willingly dealing with character defects – gradually admitting that they will have to change their lives and lifestyle if they are going to be a whole and honest human being. The decision is yours. You make the choice. The Twelve Steps and your own personal story can now be shared with others and can help them on their own life’s journey.
(C) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. Ky. Page 126.
To order these publications online, contact www. depressedanon.com at the Depressed Anonymous Publications Bookstore.
Many times it is difficult for persons interested in attending a face to face Depressed Anonymous meeting in their community, sadly discovering that there are no DA meetings available.
Our Fellowship has developed tools to help those who have no support groups to utilize our Home Study Kit of Recovery. The Home Study Kit includes a Depressed Anonymous Workbook and the Depressed Anonymous Group Manual( 3rd edition). Both books used together provide information about depression plus personal enrichment.
You will find that the Depressed Anonymous Workbook, with questions pertaining to each of the chapters in the Manual are coordinated by page and paragraph with the Manual.
Our approach to depression is based on the 12 spiritual principles of Recovery. Your answers to the questions are your own and gradually move you one step after another until all the 12 Step are personally assimilated and examined based on your own life experiences. The whole Home Study process will let you go at your own speed so that you have an in depth awareness of how depression can by overcome by learning how you got to where you are today. Following this learning experience you will gradually acquire tools for facing and overcoming those areas of your life which previous to the study, had you imprisoned in pain plus isolated from others. In fact, after moving through all the Steps and learning how depression has negatively affected your life – you will gradually have tools to dismantle those various thoughts, behaviors which have kept you immobilized.
For every person who uses the Home Study a sponsor will be available to you (just like in any 12 step program) as a mentor, per your choice, and walk with you through this recovery process. If you choose to take this healing path and make a decision to do so, you will find that you not only are feeling better but that life has meaning for you once again. You are hopeful!
An example from The DA Workbook on Page 83, Question 11.18 states that:
“We conclude that since our depression and sad thoughts are getting progressively worse over the course of time, we then have to admit that our feelings are out of control and we need help.” (M116). And it is here that the question prompts a solution from the same person. Here is her solution and one that you could use as well.
M116 refers to the Depressed Anonymous Manual where we find the personal story of Frances who shares with us that “I just hope that I will always be able to attend Depressed Anonymous meetings regularly and wish more people had the opportunity to do the same. Depressed Anonymous has helped me so much. I cannot begin to explain sufficiently the support the meetings can give one who is depressed. Depressed Anonymous has been and is my salvation. I know the Twelve Steps program is the only way to go to get one on the right track and it takes the meetings to keep you there. They are also a “Godsend” for me and I know for a lot of others who are depressed.” Page 116.
Finally, if there are no meetings in your community this process of using the Home Study Recovery program will provide so much for you that it will enable you to lead a support group in your home community now that you have worked all of the Steps – and that with the support of a sponsor.
(c) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications . Louisville. Ky.
(c) The Depressed Anonymous Workbook (2002) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. KY.
Both books that make up the HOME STUDY KIT can be ordered online from the Depressed Anonymous Publications Bookstore. These two books are also in eBooks format and are available for ordering online.
You can get started today.
“It is our negative thinking, our compulsive way of processing negative information, which means that we habitually store the negative and dump the positive thoughts flowing into our minds.
That promotes a feeling that makes us wanting to fall back in the old habit of staying isolated and avoiding others. We might fool ourselves and say that people have nothing to offer so I begin distancing myself from everyone .
Part of my nature when depressed is to avoid and distance myself from whatever I feel is threatening, like a child afraid of the dark.
I can only do what God wants me to do and I find out what this is by spending time with my God in meditation. Whatever we do, we need to know that our isolation and our withdrawing from friends and family, is an environment by which our depression can grown strong. Depression dies in the light of discussion.”
SOURCE: The Anti-Depressant Tablet. Volume 3:3. p.10. Louisville.KY.
“Given the need for control in all people to one degree or another, it is not at all surprising to discover that compulsive patterns are often related to depression. Compulsive patterns are by their very nature attempts to control anxiety, fear, doubt, and of course depression through establishing a repetitive and even ritualistic way of managing aspects of one’s experience.
Consider some common patterns of the compulsive personality. Such individuals are characterized as being highly moralistic and judgmental, excessively preoccupied with rules and protocol, and emotionally distant. Why the preoccupation with rules and judgments? The tendency to feel out of control (and thus anxious, afraid, doubtful, and depressed) is very strong if every detail of every experience that life has to offer is not covered in the rule book…When a person requires or expects others to follow his or her rules, he or she is inevitably disappointed, angry, and hurt when they do not. When a person adheres to a rigid rule system for managing the unpredictable and often different things that are a part of life, the ability to adapt flexibility as times and rules change is underdeveloped…it is these types of rigidities –that can get and keep depression going…Given the involvement of early learnings about control, power, responsibility, and other issues central to depression it can be a useful assignment to have the client identify his or her values that underlie the range of choices likely to be perceived by him or her. This exercise is called “Me Mapping.” Thus the client is required to think about the positions of each of the people that played a significant role in his or her development. The client can consciously discover how readily such positions can be identified and may likewise discover how readily such positions can be identified and may likewise discover that their positions are unknown. Either outcomes provides for interesting and useful discoveries. The individual who under controls situations is the person in the helpless “victim” mid set. When opportunities arise in which the individual could act in a specific way in order to favorably influence the outcome of a situation or escape a hazard, he or she does not act…The individual who over controls situations will attempt to exert control over situations that are, in fact, beyond the range of his or her influence. For such individuals, there is a blurring of the lines between hope and reality. The individual may know what he or she wants and will attempt to attain it, only to become increasingly stressed and depressed as the goal slips further and further away. By interpreting the inability to attain the goal as evidence of personal failure than as having attempted to reach a goal outside the sphere of one’s influence, depression is a predictable consequence. “
SOURCE: (c) Copyright. When Living Hurts. Michael D. Yapko. Psychology Press. (1988 . pp.104, 105, 106. 117.
Addiction to a depressing way of thinking leads in time to emotional imprisonment and continued unconsciousness that keeps one from trying to have mastery over one’s life and feelings. The feeling that one is powerless doesn’t mean that we have to be the victim of our depression. By the fact that I admit my powerlessness I can direct this new recovery energy of starting over today, and my work in feeling better. My mood gradually increases to the point that I am hopeful. So many who come into our Depressed Anonymous program and who are at various levels of depression can testify to a personal elevated mood. Once they believe that they don’t have to stay depressed and now have a choice to feel better, finding different ways and tools to help themselves out of that boxed in feeling of depression. For many this is the first sign of hope that they have felt for many years — for some — all their lives. I do have a choice in the way I am to feel. I have the key (Depressed Anonymous) for my complete recovery. I know this is true as I continue to spiral upwards into a newfound level of serenity and hope.
“You dismantle your depression by thoroughly examining your own beliefs and how you construct your world. It’s in the way we usually think about ourselves and the world that enables us to predict with accuracy the way things turn out.” Dr. Dorothy Rowe.
In the past I usually predicted gloom and doom about everything that I chose to do. I always felt that whatever I did or whatever I tried to do would end up in the trash. I never felt that I could do anything worthwhile because I never really considered anything I did in the past as being worthwhile. I predicted that nothing would ever turn out for me – and you know, I was right! Now I am predicting success as I am beginning to value myself and the things that I do. I have found with some small experience that the more I predict success, the more that success appears on my horizon. It this what they call a self-fulfilling prophecy?
My depression made me an excellent prognosticator. These things were always bad. I always had cancer, was suffering from a heart attack or had some rare and incurable disease. I was always seeing life from the negative and hopeless side. I was learning that it is only when I practice seeing life as hopeful and filled with promise, that I discover my mood beginning to lift. I am feeling more cheerful like when I used to have hope in my life but took it for granted.”
WE TRUST OUR GOD, TO LET US SEE LIFE AS IT IS AND NOT AS WE USUALLY THINK OF IT WHEN WE ARE DEPRESSED. I SEE LIFE WITH PROMISE AND POSSIBILITIES.
Copyright(c) Higher Thoughts for down days: 365 daily thoughts and meditations for members of 12 Step fellowship groups. Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville.KY.
Copyright(C) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. KY.