“One thing I’ve learned is that of all the horrendous problems we face in the world, what strikes me as the root cause of them all, and it is a myth: “I don’t have any power.” Mark DuBois, Director of Worldwise.
“Many times the desire to help the depressed pushes the helper deeper into the isolation of the depressed -mirroring the reality of the depressed person.”
Sometimes in our efforts to help the depressed significant other, we often forget that it is our own recovery that needs to be first considered. We need a fresh approach and we need a plan. We can now admit that we became angry because our depressed friend didn’t recover according to our schedule of events for their life. We might have even berated our depressed friend or family members that all they had to do was pick themselves up by their boot straps and all would be well. Now that our eyes have been opened and our minds have been enlightened we realize that we are learning new ways to take care of ourselves.
We want to be conscious of the ways that have neither helped or fixed our depressed significant other. Because our ways have not worked is no reason why we need to beat ourselves up over the past experiences which have done more harm possibly than good.
We might even begin to talk to our loved one about how we now are going to take care of ourselves. We also might tell how we are getting help for ourselves. We are doing what we have asked them to do so that they might get the help that they need.
Our recovery begins the minute we make the decision to turn our minds and our wills over to the care of God as we understood God. ” ( Page 64, Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition).
We are learning that our own individual strength, our sanity if you will, comes from our active participation in the Dep-Anon Family Group where we are no longer alone, but instead find ourselves in touch with a healing process of those much like ourselves. Instead of casting any blame at the depressed significant other we now are in the active process of discovering areas in our own lives that need work. (The Dep-Anon Family Group, pages AR-AS.)
SOURCES: Copyright(c) Depressed Anonymous, 3rd edition. (2011) Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. KY.
Copyright(c) The Dep-Anon Family Group, Depressed Anonymous Publications. Louisville. KY.